Years back, Robert and I also collaborated for tale about men’s and women’s bars.

Offered our diametrically compared methods to work — him sculpting phrase by sentence, me personally planning to blurt a messy draft out then return back and tinker — it is magic we didn’t arrived at blows.

Our research had been “dating” one another — Robert dragging me personally into homosexual watering holes (he had been careful to choose pubs he didn’t frequent, into lesbian spots lest I cramp his style), me strutting him. A few weeks ago, he said he’d reread the storyline and thought it had been actually bad — small tips, clunky prose. And seeking it over, I’d to concur. Nevertheless, Robert, you had been the most readily useful kid date we ever endured. — Alisa Solomon



The following is our top that is last 10

1. A kiss at the Blue Willow in order that most of the global globe would understand.

2. Trading marriage rings over pastrami.

3. A flat with green carpeting and red walls we could make our own that we knew.

5. A bathtub packed with kittens and William meowing to be noticed.

6. Our very first anniversary, I-95, and a tree that keeps growing.

7. A cool February time in Berlin trying to find art and working with snowfall and combat that is torn-up.

8. March 26, 1993: City Hall, domestic partnership, and a bride that is nervous.

9. The Statue of Liberty — a kiss — and sodium and pepper shakers.

10. My birthday celebration this when you struggled to light a candle and carry the cake yourself year.

Not to mention viewing you while you slept for 2204 evenings. Do you know what? We nevertheless do.

“Always back at my brain. ” Perry



HOW CAN ROBERT DIE — and keep us to alone watch Nixon’s funeral? Well sup­plied with a great amount of cigarettes, take-out consumes, and gallons of caffeinated beverage, and sharing a loathing that is mutual the instantly sanctified former prez, Robert, their fan Perry, and I also might have had a ball along with his send-off. This was the TV event of the season: Five-Presidents-and-First-La­dies-Five and Bob Hope, politicians galore and a bunch of cheap crooks (sometimes one and the same), and the incomparable Spiro Agnew after all, with the possi­ble exceptions of the endless Menendez boys’ courtroom drama and the Tonya & Nancy variety show. Oh, the way the bile might have mingled with unbridled laughter once we re­acted to any or all that pathetic posturing and cant, and of course Senator Dole’s Emmy­-worthy little breakdown at the termination of their eulogy. After which we might have dedicated to the essential material: Barbara Bush’s K­-Marche faux pearls, the Carters’ seeming dyspepsia, and whether Alexis Carrington Colby, oops, i am talking about Nancy Reagan has already established another lift.

Not to ever dis Tricia’s and Julie’s grief, but­oh that is— please! — their pop music have been preparing their last farewell as an important television comeback unique ever since he split fast from the White home back ’74, and that’s exact­ly just how Robert and Perry and I also will have relished it — since yet another great television occasion that included with the dwelling upon which we built and nurtured our relationship. For most­ly, in the last 15 years (sufficient reason for Perry additionally working the remote since ’88), Robert and I also watched television. One or more times a week and, based on the thing that was on, often so much more usually — we went up to Robert’s (after which Robert and Perry’s) apartment; I became house — you understand, the area what your location is constantly welcome. And while we chewed over anything from our very own strive to most of the present problems and gossip, our main task had been tv, plenty of it, the whole thing — the news headlines, Mary Tyler Moore reruns, several years of Dynasty, tennis, fig­ure skating, Murphy Brown, election re­turns, lousy dramas, prizes programs, and, first and foremost, beauty pageants. We took all of it in, savoring the purest moments — Sue Sim­mons and Al Roker, such a thing from Delta Burke’s delirious Suzanne Sugarbaker, the self-referential brilliance associated with the final New­hart — and commenting upon, twisting, spitting straight right back, and otherwise manipulating almost all of the sleep for the very own function: good con­versation. And possibly it absolutely was simply a reason become together.

The best television memory is of a beauty pageant a couple of years ago, by which a contestant had been asked something similar to: In one hundred years, that do you imagine would be considered probably the most influential girl associated with century that is 20th? Which was precisely the kind of thing we delighted in — and took dead really. After much hysterical laughter over the contestant’s response — Babs Bush (then very First Lady) — we first had to deconstruct the question. Exactly What is the answer that is best to be able to win the competition? Exactly What will be the answer that is right? The absolute most im­pressive? The absolute most clever? Eleanor Roose­velt had been the obvious answer — too apparent, we decided. Then Perry popped in with Madonna. We liked that, but nah. We thought hard and created Anne Frank. Ooh, they liked that. Impressive option. After which, a short while later on, Robert seemed up, eyes twinkling, and stated defini­tively, “Lucy Ricardo. ” Ever the thoughtful, deliberate journalist, he had worked it through. And, needless to say, he had been appropriate.

The good news is, lacking Robert, lacking him ter­ribly, we find our alternatives somehow ironic. For while Perry and I also have always continued together in a fashion that just might bring to mind Lucy and Ethel or, to switch to my medium of expertise — Donna summertime and Barbra Streisand carrying on in Enough will do — Robert, well, Robert really had a lot more than a little bit of Anne Frank in him. Both in their work — as a movie movie theater critic and specially as being a journalist documenting the horrors of AIDS therefore the battle for homosexual legal rights — along with his life that is personal first seemed for the good in other people, when it comes to good as well as the feasible. He could possibly be angry or cynical(cf. Nixon), but he had been basically a sort, nice guy whom did their damnedest. And like a lot of of the TV shows that are best — state, I’ll Fly Away — Robert ended up being canceled way too quickly. Oh, Robert, we never ever surely got to say, “Hi, Roz! ” — Jim Feldman